Funda kabanzi mayelana nokuchazwa kwephupho mayelana nokuncelisa ingane yabesifazane abangashadile ngu-Ibn Sirin  

Kungokwemvelo ukuthi owesifazane okhulelwe aphuphe ukuthi uncelisa ingane njengendlela elinde ngayo lesi sikhathi, futhi owesifazane oshadile ongenabantwana angase akubone njengohlobo lwethemba lokuthi isifiso sakhe sizofezeka, kodwa kuthiwani ngephupho lokuncelisa ingane ephusheni kowesifazane ongashadile ongakaze ashade noma abe nezingane, lesi yisihloko sethu namuhla Nansi imininingwane.

Iyini incazelo yephupho mayelana nokuncelisa ingane kwabesifazane abangashadile?

Amaphupho mayelana nokuncelisa ingane ibele angahlotshaniswa nemibono yokuvikela, ukugada, ukukhulisa izingane, ukudala nokuqinisa izibopho phakathi kwamalungu omndeni ngisho naphakathi kwabantu abazizwa besondelene kakhulu, kodwa abangahlobene ngokwemvelo. Lo mbono unezincazelo eziningi okunzima ukuzibala ngaphandle kwalapho wazi ukuthi ungowesilisa noma owesifazane? Ibukeka kanjani ingane? Uzizwa kanjani umphuphi ngalokhu okwenzekile? Yonke le yimibuzo ehlobana nemininingwane futhi isenza sibalule kuzo ezinye zezimpawu ezishiwo yizazi zokuhumusha ezincwadini zazo.

• Lawa maphupho ajwayele ukubonwa abantu abasuke behlela ukuqala umndeni nalabo abasuke bevikela kakhulu abathandiweyo babo, kanti intombazane ephuphayo ingase ibe ngomunye walabo, ngakho yabona ephusheni layo ukuthi iyamnakekela futhi. ukuncelisa ingane.
• Intombazane ingase iswele ububele bukanina lapho isaphila. Njengokungathi umama uhlanganisa empilweni yakhe siqu kude namadodana namadodakazi akhe, okwenza umbukeli azizwe enesizungu kanye nokuntuleka kwezibonelo empilweni yakhe, futhi kukhona labo abacindezela lo muzwa ekuziphatheni okungalungile, futhi abanye babo abakwenzi. bavumele ukwenza kanjalo, kodwa kunalokho bakhetha ukunakekela abanye njengendlela yokwaneliseka.
• Abanye abahlaziyi bathi ukungaphumeleli kwentombazane ebudlelwaneni obungokomzwelo kungase kube isisusa sayo sokuzizwa isidingo sokuba nomthwalo wemfanelo othile, kuyilapho ilahlwa othile eyayicabanga ukuthi uzoshada ayivikele.
• Ngezinye izikhathi ukubambezeleka emshadweni iminyaka kubangela imizwa yokuba ngumama ukuba izalwe entombazaneni, ngoba yacishe yaphelelwa yithemba lokuqaphela leli phupho phansi.
• Ukuncelisa ingane ephusheni kowesifazane ongashadile kungase kube isibonakaliso esihle sokuthi uzokwazi ukusungula ubudlelwane obuhle bezenhlalakahle nalabo abaseduze naye, nokuthi ingqondo yakhe izoshintsha ibe ngcono ngemva komshado.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokuncelisa ingane kwabesifazane abangashadile ngu-Ibn Sirin

• U-Imam uthe leli phupho liwukubonakaliswa kokuthula nokulinganisela ngokwengqondo intombazane eyintombi nto ekuzwayo, naphezu kwazo zonke izinkinga nokukhathazeka eke yabhekana nakho esikhathini esidlule, futhi wathola okuthile okuzoyijabulisa ngokucabanga ngalolu daba. okuningi, futhi wancamela ukukushiya ezandleni zeNkosi (uMninimandla onke futhi Ophakeme) ukuze abe nethemba lokuthi Yena umkhethela okungcono kakhulu noma kunjalo.
• Uma umntwana elambile futhi ekhala ngenxa yendlala yakhe futhi awukwazi ukumthulisa nganoma iyiphi indlela, khona-ke iphupho libonisa izimo zakhe nemizwa engemihle emlawulayo, futhi okungafanele anikeze kuyo, futhi abe nethemba lokuthi lokho uyeza ungcono uma nje ethembele eNkosini yakhe.
• Uma intombazane ikwazi ukondla umntwana kuze kube yilapho ethula futhi elala, khona-ke ufeza isifiso esithandekayo kuye, esihlobene nomkhakha wakhe wobuchwepheshe.

Isayithi laseGibhithe, isayithi elikhulukazi elikhethekile ekuchazeni amaphupho emhlabeni wama-Arab, vele uthayiphe isayithi laseGibhithe ukuze uthole incazelo yamaphupho ku-Google futhi uthole izincazelo ezifanele.

Izincazelo ezibaluleke kakhulu zokubona ingane encelisayo ephusheni

Iyini incazelo yephupho mayelana nokuncelisa ingane emomothekayo yowesifazane oyedwa? 

• Leli phupho liyizindaba ezinhle entombazaneni ukuthi uzonqoba zonke izithiyo ngaphambi kokushada nensizwa enobudlelwane obuseduze nobumsulwa, futhi ukumamatheka kwengane encane kuwuphawu lwenhlanhla ehambisana naye ngalesi sikhathi. .
• Kodwa uma ingane yenqaba ukuncelisa, khona-ke intombazane kufanele ilungise ukuziphatha kwayo, ngoba kukhona okungalungile ngokuziphatha kwayo okwenza idumela lakhe ligxile ezingxoxweni zabantu abazungezile.
• Ukumamatheka kwengane kumboni, isifiso sakhe sasihlobene nokuthola umsebenzi ofanelekayo, ikakhulukazi uma ehlala emndenini ompofu futhi efuna ukusiza uyise ngezindleko zakhe, kuwubufakazi bokuthi wathola umsebenzi ofanelekayo esikhungweni esidumile. umlethela imali eyanele yenyanga.
• Uma kwenzeka kukhona umuntu empilweni yakhe, kodwa akazi ukuthi uyayibuyisela imizwa yakhe noma cha, futhi ukucabanga kwakhe kusanda kukhathazeka ngale ndaba, khona-ke iphupho lakhe liwuphawu lwemizwa efanayo kanye nosuku olusondelayo. umshado osemthethweni kuze kube yilapho injabulo yakhe iphindaphindeka kabili, futhi unomuzwa wokuthi umhlaba uvule izingalo zawo kuye, ngokungafani nenkathi edlule.
• Kuthiwani uma izifiso zakhe zingokwesayensi futhi ufuna ukuqedela izifundo zakhe enyuvesi yangaphandle?! Noma ngabe ibuphi ubunzima abhekene nabo kulokhu, kufanele abe nethemba ngemuva kwaleli phupho, eliwuphawu lokunqoba izithiyo nokufeza izinhloso nezifiso.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokuncelisa umntwana okhalayo kwabesifazane abangashadile 

• Umboni uvame ukudlula enkathini yokungalingani empilweni yakhe, kanye nethuba lokulahlekelwa umthombo wesisa empilweni yakhe emelelwe kumama noma uyise, okumenza azizwe enesizungu futhi encishwe okuthile.
• Uma ingane izola ngemva kokukhala isikhathi eside, khona-ke lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuphumelela kwakhe ezifundweni zakhe, kodwa ngemva kokuhluleka okuningana, noma ukuthi uthole umuntu ofanele ukushada ngemva kokuhlangenwe nakho okuningana okuhlulekile.
• Ukukhala kwengane ngelinye lamaphupho amabi amema umbukeli ukuthi acabangisise ngezigameko ezenzeka ngakuyo, kanti kungenye yezimbangela zokukhathazeka nosizi umndeni obhekene nakho, noma yena isisulu sezimo ezimbi eziye zabekwa kuye.
• Ongoti bezitoliko bathi intombazane kumele ibhekisise izehlakalo zesikhathi sayo sakudala, ngabe kukhona yini ezisola ngakho, njengoba imiphumela yalesi senzo esingalungile ingase isayikhunge kuze kube manje, futhi ngeke yehlise umoya ngaphandle kokuthi idlule kukho konke okuhlobene naleli phutha. noma enze inhlawulo ngakho.
• Uma ekwazi ukwanelisa ingane futhi amthulise, khona-ke unamakhono angakaqapheli okwamanje, kodwa maduzane uzokhipha amathalenta ngaphakathi kwakhe futhi awasebenzise kangcono ukuze aguqule impilo yakhe ibe ngcono.

Iyini incazelo yephupho mayelana nokuncelisa ingane wesilisa ephusheni kowesifazane ongashadile? 

• Ingane wesilisa iveza inqwaba yezinkinga kanye nokuqoqwa kokukhathazeka emahlombe ombukeli wesifazane. Ngakho angakwazi yini ukubekezelela lokhu abhekene nakho phakathi nalesi sikhathi, noma kufanele afune usizo lomuntu oseduze nenhliziyo yakhe owazi ubuqotho bakhe nokumesaba!
• Kuyaziwa kubahumushi ukuthi uma ingane ingowesilisa, kuningi ukwesaba okuhambisanayo kulesi sigaba sokuphila kwentombazane, futhi kufanele azame ukuyishintsha ngemicabango emihle, noma okungenani angayivumeli ibe yimbi. kumthinte noma kumthene amandla ekuqhubekeni nendlela yakhe ebheke emgomweni wakhe awuhlelile.
• Uma intombazane ibona ukuthi incela ibele umfana osekhulile, izobhekana nenkinga enkulu ehlobene nokuhlonishwa kwayo, futhi ingase ibe msulwa kukho konke okushiwo ngayo kumngane omubi, nanjengoba uMprofethi wethu oNgcwele asho. umuntu usenkolweni yomngane wakhe, ngakho-ke omunye wenu makacabangele ukuthi ubani amthululela kuye) uMprofethi oNgcwele (ukuthula nezibusiso zika Allah kube kuye) wakholwa.
• Nakho konke okubi okungase kube umphumela wokubona ingane yowesilisa, kusekhona okuhle intombazane ekutholayo uma usana luluhle ngokubukeka, lokho kuwuphawu lwenjabulo yalo esikhathini esizayo ngemva kokushada nensizwa elungile. ukuziphatha okuhle nokuziphatha okuhle, abantu abangazi kuze kube Konke okuhle, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke lokho kumqinisekisa ngekusasa eliqhakazile nempilo enethezekile (uNkulunkulu ethanda).
• Omunye wabahlaziyi uthe, intombazane ephuzile futhi engasangqongqozi endlini yayo ukuze ishade, akumele iphelelwe ithemba, njengoba kukhona abalindele ukuthi ikhanyisele impilo yayo futhi inakekele izingane zayo. njengoba kulindelekile ukuthi abe ngumfelokazi onezingane, futhi akanankinga nalokho ngoba ebona ukuziphatha kahle kwale ndoda.
• Kwashiwo futhi ekuchazeni leli phupho ukuthi kuwuphawu lobuntu obuqinile bentombazane engakwazi ukuthwala imithwalo yemfanelo eminingi futhi iyifeze ngokugcwele.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokuncelisa ingane yesifazane kwabesifazane abangashadile 

• Elinye lamaphupho amahle aphethe inhlanhla kumnikazi walo, njengoba ukubona intombazane kuvame ukuveza impumelelo empilweni.
• Uma lowo wesifazane ongashadile ethola ukuthi kukhona obeke owesifazane omuhle eduze kwakhe, kodwa ekhala ngenxa yendlala, futhi kwadingeka ukuba amncelise, kungenzeka ukuthi yingane eyashiywa ngunina owashona ngesikhathi sokuzalwa kwakhe. yona ngelinye ilanga.
•  Uma kwenzeka esemncane, ukuncelisa owesifazane kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi izifiso zakhe zizofezeka kanye nenjabulo emlindile esikhathini esizayo.
• Uma intombazane yaneliswa insizwa empofu engenazo ngokwanele izidingo ezibekwe umndeni wakubo, kodwa ithole ukuthi bayayilahla ngalokho, okwandisa ukukhathazeka kwayo, khona-ke kukhona umuntu ohlakaniphile ongabakholisa futhi lula izinto ukuze insizwa nentombazane bawuqedele kahle umshado obusisiwe.
• Umbono ubuye ufanekisela injabulo yomboni nomyeni wesikhathi esizayo amkhethayo ukuba alungile futhi akhonze, ngisho noma imali yakhe imfushane.
• Kodwa uma eke wagula isikhashana futhi waba naleli phupho, kufanele abe nethemba mayelana nesikhathi sokululama esisondelayo.
• Uma intombazane isencane futhi inhle, khona-ke ukumbona kuyisibonakaliso sokuthuthukiswa kwezimo, ukuphela kwezinkinga intombazane eyadlula kuzo, ukuphela kwesiteji esibi nakho konke okukuyo, bese ungena kwabanye futhi ulinde okuhle ( Ngokwentando kankulunkulu).

Ithini incazelo yephupho mayelana nokuncelisa ingane ngaphandle kweyami yowesifazane oyedwa? 

• Iphupho liveza imizwa emihle lowo umbonisi ayigcinayo futhi afisa ukuyizala maduze kumyeni onesimilo esihle nezingane ezinhle azozikhulisa ngokwezimfundiso zenkolo yamaSulumane.
• Owesifazane ongashadile ebona ukuthi udadewabo umnike ingane yakhe ukuba amncelise, ngakho uyamkhathalela udadewabo, futhi uyamsiza ekuxazululeni izinkinga zakhe ezihlupha ukuphila kwakhe, futhi kuwuphawu lothando nesibopho phakathi kodade ababili. .
• Kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona umuntu omphathise imfihlo yakhe, kumele ayigcine kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani.
• Kodwa uma ebona ukuthi ubisi lwakhe lwebele alugwinywa ngumntwana, kodwa luwela phansi ekamelweni, leli phupho libonisa ukuthi umphuphi ulindele izinkinga ezithile emndenini, futhi kungase kuphakame izingxabano phakathi kwabazalwane ngenxa yefa noma phakathi kwabazali, futhi kuzo zombili izimo ingena esimweni sokudabuka nokucindezeleka isikhathi eside.” Ukuze abize amandla amahle, uyaqiniseka ukuthi ubumnyama kumelwe bube nokukhanya okukhanya ngemva kwabo, okumsiza ukuba anqobe ububi. isigaba aphila kuso njengamanje.

Ngiphuphe ngincela ingane encane ibele ngisengashadile ngabe kusho ukuthini lokho?

• Intombazane yalibona leliphupho njengamanje izizwa isele yodwa akekho ongamelana nayo uma inenkinga izothola umngani oqotho ozosakaza usizi nobuhlungu enze lento ayiyo. ukuhamba kalula kuye.
• Uma ezungezwe abangane ababi abasizakala ngobumsulwa bakhe nomusa ukuze kuzuze bona, khona-ke uyayibona inkohliso yabo futhi uncamela ukuqhela kubo ukuze azivikele ebubini babo.
• Uma ibona ingane isidlulile isikhathi sokuncela kodwa isizibona isiyincela, iba yisisulu somuntu omqola imali uma isicebi, noma ezama ukuyixhaphaza ngenye indlela, futhi kufanele aqaphele kakhulu. walabo abamzungezile ababonisa ubuqotho nobuqotho bakhe, ngokuphambene nalokho abakufukamele ngenzondo nenzondo.
• Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokuncelisa ingane encane kwabesifazane abangashadile kusho ukuthi othile oseduze nenhliziyo yakhe udinga ukumsekela futhi athathe isandla sakhe ukuze aphume osizini oluthile, futhi empeleni angakwazi ukwenza indima yakhe naye ngokuphumelelayo.
• Abahumushi bamaphupho bangaleso sikhathi bathi lapho intombazane izibona incela ibele ephusheni, ishukunyiswa umuzwa wokupha ngaphakathi kuyo, futhi iqaphela imigomo emisha edinga ukuzikhandla nomzamo, kodwa yayingazi ukuthi yayinayo. amakhono amfanelekelayo ukuwazuza.
• Baphinde bathi lo mbono usendleleni yokusungula iphrojekthi entsha futhi uyihlele kahle ukuze athole imali eningi ngayo futhi afeze izifiso zakhe kwezokuhwebelana namabhizinisi.
• Iphupho lisho ukuthi maduze uzohlangana nalowo akhululekile kuye, futhi umshado uzokwenzeka phakathi kwabo ngokushesha okukhulu.
• Uma kwenzeka ebona omunye umuntu encelisa ingane amaziyo lokhu kuyinkomba yokuthi kumele aqikelele uma esebenzelana nabanye ngoba akubona bonke abantu abaseduze kwakhe abanomusa nothembekile njengoba kunabantu abanomona nenzondo kuye ngisho uma bekhombisa okuphambene.

Iyini incazelo yephupho mayelana nowesifazane ongashadile uncelisa ingane ngaphandle kobisi?

Iphupho liveza izinkinga eziningi abhekana nazo kanye nokungakwazi ukubhekana nazo eyedwa Uzizwa edinga kakhulu umuntu ozomsekela ngokwengqondo futhi amnikeze umthamo wamandla omuhle amcindezela ukuba anqobe lezi zinkathazo akhale kakhulu futhi akatholi lutho oluzokwanelisa indlala yakhe, lokhu kuyinkomba yokuqoqwa kwezikweletu emahlombe akhe kanye nokushoda ... Lokho akuchitha yena ngokwakhe.

Iyini incazelo yephupho mayelana nokuncelisa ingane kwabesifazane abangashadile abanobisi?

Ukubona intombazane endaweni evalekile kuyona nengane bese incela ibele kukhomba ukuthi njengamanje ingene shi enkingeni enkulu futhi isifuna isisombululo sayo, kodwa kunzima kakhulu kunalokho ebekucabanga Ukubona ubisi nokuncelisa ingane kuze kube wanelisekile ubonisa ukuthi uthola isikhundla esiphakeme phakathi kontanga yakhe futhi akalahli muntu odinga iseluleko kuye, ngisho noma engasiza ngemali.

Uma emncelisa ebhodleleni elinobisi, usuke ethola imali eningi emsebenzini wakhe enkampanini eyenzela omunye umuntu noma ngeyakhe iphrojekthi ayiqale maduze nje kwathiwa iwuphawu lokuthokozela okuhle impilo noma ukululama kwakhe uma egula u-Imam Nabulsi uthe intombazane ephethe ezandleni Ibhodlela eligcwele amanzi noma ubisi likhombisa ukushada nendoda enhle eyaziwa ngolwazi lwayo nokuziphatha okungekho muntu ongavumelani nayo.

Iyini incazelo yephupho mayelana nokuncelisa ingane kusukela esifubeni sobunxele sowesifazane oyedwa?

Ibele lesokunxele liseduze nenhliziyo, lapho umntwana osanda kuzalwa ezwa ukushaya kwenhliziyo kanina futhi eseduze kakhulu naye ukumbona encelisa leli bele ephusheni lakhe kuwuphawu lomzwelo onzima awuthwele kanye nesifiso sakhe sokufuna ukumunca. shada ukuze uthole izingane futhi uthole imizwa efudumele yokuba ngumama. Iphupho lentombazane ukuthi ubisi luphuma ebeleni langakwesokunxele , uvame ukukhohliswa nokukhashelwa, futhi abanye abambuyiseli ngomusa njengoba ayenzile kubo kwasekuqaleni.

Uma eshade nomuntu ezilungiselela ukushada naye usuke esebona ukuthi akamfanele ukwethenjwa abembeka kuyena bese enquma ukuqhela kuyena engakayiqedi inkontileka ukuze angahlali osizini ukuphila kwakhe konke kodwa uma ebona ukuthi unina usebelethile futhi uyena onesibopho sokumnakekela nokumncelisa, khona-ke uzama ukusondela kunina ngalesi sikhathi. kodwa Kukhona into ebahlukanisayo, futhi kungase kube yisono esenziwe intombazane esithinte isithunzi somkhaya futhi sabangela ukuba umama aziqhelelanise naye ngokwengqondo njengendlela yokujezisa Nokho, umnyango wokuphenduka usavuliwe phambi kwakhe , uma engqongqoza athole indlela eya enhliziyweni kamama wakhe ivulekile, ungalilahli ithemba.